Balancing Motherhood and Personal Time: Strategies for Finding Time for Yourself

Motherhood is a beautiful and transformative journey, but let's be real—it’s also incredibly demanding. As a new mum, your days are filled with feedings, nappy changes, and the endless cycle of caring for your little one. Amidst all these responsibilities, finding time for yourself can feel impossible. But here’s the truth: prioritising your personal time isn’t just a luxury; it’s essential for your well-being and, by extension, the well-being of your family.

Here are some practical strategies to help you carve out moments just for you, even in the busiest of days.

1. Embrace the Power of Micro-Moments

Who says self-care has to be hours long? In the whirlwind of motherhood, micro-moments can be your best friend. These are tiny pockets of time—think five to ten minutes—that you can seize throughout the day. Whether it’s sipping your morning tea without distractions, practicing deep breathing while your baby naps, or enjoying a quick walk outside, these small moments can make a huge difference in how you feel.

Tip: Keep a journal and note down these micro-moments when you take them. Over time, you’ll see how much they add up to a more balanced and centered you.

 2. Incorporate Self-Care into Your Routine

Finding time for yourself doesn’t mean you need to overhaul your schedule. Instead, try weaving self-care into your existing routine. If you’re already pushing the stroller on a walk, turn it into a mini workout by adding some light lunges or stretches. When feeding your baby, listen to an audiobook or podcast that you love. 

Tip: Find self-care activities that align with your daily routines. This way, you’re not adding more to your to-do list but enhancing what you’re already doing.

3. Ask for Help—And Accept It

Asking for help can be hard, but it’s crucial. Whether it’s your partner, family, or friends, don’t hesitate to lean on them. Maybe it’s asking your partner to take over bedtime a few nights a week so you can soak in a long bath, or having a friend watch the baby while you take a walk alone. Accepting help doesn’t make you any less of a supermum—it makes you human.

Tip: Create a list of tasks you’d appreciate help with, so when someone offers, you’re ready to say yes.

 4. Set Boundaries Around Your Time

Time boundaries are essential for protecting your personal space. It’s okay to say no to social events, skip certain chores, or ask visitors to come at a more convenient time. Set specific “me time” hours, even if they’re just 15 minutes before bed, and protect that time as you would an important appointment.

Tip: Communicate your boundaries clearly to those around you, so they understand and respect your need for personal time.

5. Prioritise What Brings You Joy

In the limited time you have for yourself, prioritise activities that truly bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it’s reading a chapter of a book, doing a short yoga session, or indulging in a creative hobby, focus on what makes you feel good. This will recharge your batteries far more than activities that feel like just another obligation.

Tip: Make a list of your top five feel-good activities, and aim to do at least one each day, even if it’s just for a few minutes.